I’ve been going through a paradigm shift lately. Hate to use such a clichéd term, but there it is. All my reading, all my thinking, it’s all hammering home the same lesson: I have to create the life I want. No one is going to give it to me, and it’s not out there already waiting for me to find it. It doesn’t exist yet, and it’s up to me to make it happen.
Some telling things: What is my ideal lifestyle? If I had all the money I ever needed in the bank, what would I do day to day? I do not have answers to those questions right now. And that is a serious freaking problem.
I’m pondering becoming a futurist, getting a degree in Strategic Foresight.
From Christine Comaford-Lynch’s book, a couple of things:
1.) Supreme Confidence, gigantic, absolute, quiet confidence has to come from within and it cannot be validated by others because it’s there no matter what others think. How many times do I have to learn this lesson?
2.) She talks about business plans. So often, she says, people have this plan:
a) Develop widget
c) Make millions
Where b is undefined but basically tells how you are going to pull this off and get from A to C.
For me, in the past, it’s been like this:
a) Get degree
c) Go to Mars, become successful in business, become a pastor, or I dare say, a futurist.
Well, what’s B? It was never defined. And that’s why I’ve been in a series of jobs I don’t care about, why I’ve never gotten to do the things I want to do. My plans are never complete. I get a harebrained idea, launch into it with a big cool goal and never figure out what goes in between. It’s like playing chess and moving your first pawn to D4 and ignoring the rest of the moves to checkmate. Usually, you’re the one that gets checkmated as you react tactically to the other players moves.
In other words, strategy counts. Where are you going, and how are you going to get there? This doesn’t mean having a rigid plan. Instead, you need to have options. If this doesn’t work, what will you do? If you end up here, how will you get to there? Once you get the degree, then what? What options do you have? How will you act on those options? More importantly, are you sure that those options will give you the lifestyle you want? Is it possible that starting this path will lead you to something else you haven’t thought of, good or bad?
A lot to think about. But key and critical to making the right decision for a change.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m a Christian and I believe in praying about it. But two things: First, God gave us a brain so we could use it, and with that brain came free will. We can choose, whether it’s a good choice or poor choice, He lets us make it. He’ll work out His plans no matter what we do. Second, my track record on praying before has not worked that way – usually it’s after I make the decision and commit that I have an idea that I did the right or wrong thing.
Like I said, a lot to think about.