Many years ago, before I married my wife, I had a problem.
I had no idea how to be a man. I always thought that when I grew up I’d be mature, confident, in control. But I wasn’t, and most of the time I was just muddling through. I wasn’t doing well with women, so I joined a Christian dating group, and at one event, I asked a girl out. She said no, she didn’t date, and said it was because of a book by Josh Harris called I Kissed dating Goodbye.
Naturally, I (and many others interested in the same girl) went out and bought the book.
To be honest, I didn’t think much of his philosophy. Your mileage, of course, may vary. But what did impress me is the last part of the book where he talked about making yourself ready for your wife. Improving your character, getting right with God, useful skills, that sort of thing.
I took a good long look at myself and I wasn’t happy with what I saw. So I started to read, prolifically, and work on my social life. Then I got married and had a kid. Now I’m working on my career.
I won’t lie and say I have it all figured out – I’m not sure anyone ever really does. But I’d like to share my learnings in an occasional series of posts. My next post will mention some of the books I started with, and some of the lessons I learned from them.
Stick around. I think you’ll find it interesting!